Monday, February 28, 2011

First a Baby, then a Business

My son is now one year old!  That's also the amount of time that I've been out of the workforce.  I have been calling this time my "family sabbatical".  Like the outcome of many work-related sabbaticals, I have launched a business during mine.  For whatever reason(s), when you leave the workforce, you begin to wrestle with big life questions, like "what do I really want in my career."  For me, something had to be very important to me in order to compete with time with my son.  If you can afford it, it's liberating to allocate true value of your time versus what a company tells you your worth.  I was also motivated to start a business, because I grew very tired of not having a response to the question "What do you do?"  People, men and women, minimize your worth the second you say "I stay at home with my kid(s)."

Like many others who have been out of the workforce for a while, albeit voluntarily or involuntarily, you begin to interview yourself. What are my skills? Who needs these skills?  Very quickly, you also recognize what the market says you are worth.  From there, a series of calculations are made based on your own personal skills, network, guts and insanity.  If you are like me, at the end of all the number crunching and emotional wrangling, you decide to start a business.

Three things happened to me that finally prompted me to jump in:

1.  I got jealous.
During a much needed girls weekend last Fall, my friend SHOCKED me by telling me how well ($$$) her business was doing after only four years.  Granted, she is brilliant and extremely self-motivated, but it was somewhat of an ego crusher to compare my former career salary after seven years to her entrepreneur earnings after four.  My maternal instinct was overtaken by my competitive spirit for the first time since the arrival of our son.

2.  I got bored, really bored.
This one is easy to understand.  After working for seven years and being busy since forever, it was extremely hard to face a daily to-do list of emptying the dishwasher, laundry and tv viewing.  So, I hired a cleaning lady, chucked the laundry and divorced live tv.  My neighbors rejoiced, too.  They were beginning to give me the "go away, you stalker lady" look.

3.  Opportunity came knocking.
I was fortunate to be "hunted" versus "hunting" work, thanks to my social network.  I received a contract from someone who saw my LinkedIn profile status that I had posted six months earlier.  The status said that I'd be looking for short-term engagements in February and they contacted me in January.  That was the final kick in the behind I needed to start my business.

It turns out that I'm getting used to this whole birthing thing.  First a baby, then a business.  I'd love to hear from other moms with similar experiences.

2 comments:

  1. I quit my full time job after my second child was born and I struggled with the decision because I didn't know how it would affect my future. I also started to question what I actually wanted to do with my life since I hadn't been very happy in my former job. About a year later my husband and I opened our own business and now I can stay at home with my kids and work one day a week. It is great. I still wonder about my future and what else I want to do but for now I am happy. Good luck with your new business.

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  2. My brillant cousin!! I hate that we have always lived so far away from each other . . .I think that me, you, and Elissa would have been really close. Anyways, on your blog what you are feeling is how I felt after having Lola. I punched a time clock with ATA Airlines, Inc. and I hated answering to authority who I felt were more incompetent than myself (politicky, you know).
    I believe having a child opens up a different part of your brain that allows you to reach different avenues for what's best for your life and your familie's life. My husband and I started a towing company two years ago (Superior Towing, Inc.) because we were feeling the same way. Trust me . . . I never saw myself in my thirties helping tow cars and driving a tow truck- LOL. I am also going back to school for court reporting, because I can be a freelance reporter and make my own schedule!! Love your thoughts, and hope all is well!

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